Some time back a friend put up a very shocked facebook status about discovering that a certain friend of his was a virgin at something like 23 or 25 years of age. Well, I responded by telling him that virgins exist and that I was one of them. I expected shocked responses and some dissing but not outright hatefulness. One of his friends, a lady, came out fists swinging. Her comment was that all virgins are lonely, lousy, f***heads who basically can't get themselves laid. What?!!
One of the things I have to say about that is that anyone on this planet can get laid! Anyone! Don't you watch the news? You will see a woman who is stark, raving mad and she will be pregnant or have a baby on her back. How do you think it got in her belly? Sometimes it will be a mentally retarded girl and she will be just as pregnant as can be. She will have drool down her chin, she will be filthy, and pregnant. Some guy did that to her. How much more a perfectly healthy, beautiful woman? If you think virgin's just don't have someone to sleep with, you may need to think again.
As for loneliness, I have seen many women who are sleeping with men, sometimes multiple men, getting more sex than is necessary in one lifetime and they are still lonely. Married women will tell you that they may be sleeping with their husbands and yet are lonely. Why? Because one needs to connect on a deeply spiritual level with another person in order for that lonely feeling to disappear. Sex does not mean that you are connecting on a deeper level with a man or woman for that matter.
In truth, I am a very well adjusted single adult. In fact, unless I tell you that I have not slept with a man, you will not be able to tell. I am a choleric personality which means that I am a natural leader and achiever. I thrive on challenges and achievement. I am a go getter, very confident and great public speaker. Most people on the outside looking in can probably not imagine that I know nothing about what goes on between a man and a woman. At least not by experience. I say this to say that being a virgin does not necessarily mean that one is dysfunctional or ignorant. If anything it saves you the drama of heartache and pain that is caused by multiple couplings and break ups.
I think the lady that was so insulting of virgins was really bitter about her own state. Maybe she had regrets about not staying sexually pure. Her bitterness and anger showed at a very unlikely time to a person she did not even know. My only hope is that she can discover the God who restores things and makes them new again. Including virginity. By so doing she may discover the joy of secondary virginity. If you are in her shoes, you can too. It's a great place for self discovery. Try it! You just might like it.
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